There is something very disturbing about the idea of “never” having something again. It tends to make us binge and binge hard.
Then when we’ve finished fulfilling our NEED for something we thought we would never taste again, and the frenzy is over; guilt sets in.
Sometimes even when you told yourself you would not feel bad for what you are about to do, and you are feeling conscious of your decisions…somehow it still happens. You feel shame for what you just did…I mean you did just slaughter that bag of chips.
What if you didn’t have to cut anything out. And I’m not talking about taking tiny mouse bites of something once a week, because we all know that doesn’t work. I’m also not referencing the overly popularized “cheat meal”, which we all know turns into a cheat-week/ month/…. “ok I’ll start again next month” kind of thing.
I’m talking about actually eliminating elimination all together. Stop telling yourself you can’t have this, or you can’t have that.
You may not be able to have everything you want all the time, but I guarantee if you stare at that donut that you told yourself you “can’t have” long enough, you’re going to eat that donut plus several of its friends just to seek justice.
We are geared to some degree to defy authority if we think we can. We don’t like being told what to do,even if we are the one’s telling ourselves what to do. It’s almost like we are challenging ourselves…who will win, me or me?
It doesn’t make any sense. I don’t know why we think we can beat ourselves in one of the most epic battles of our daily lives – food.
Regardless of how much control you have or don’t have, everyone struggles to some degree to keep themselves in check. The feeling that you’re not able to eat “normally” if you want to change the way you eat is a motivation killer. We tell ourselves it’s not permanent, it’s just until I get to X-weight. But the problem with trying to punish ourselves for such a short period of time is that we rebound twice as hard as if we would have just found a way to be patient and change slowly.
No, you cannot get instant gratification from slow change. So are we talking about self-control with food or are we talking about being impatient with change?
I think it’s both. You can’t have one without the other. We need to learn patience in order to learn self-control.
I am a true believer that change comes slowly and with patience. I think those are both difficult to learn, but not impossible. If you feel like you can relate to this at all then stay tuned. I will be writing an article on how to start to change your relationship with food in the coming days.